Supernatural Thursdays: Why Our “SPN Family” Really is a Family

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I originally got the idea to write this post right around Thanksgiving but decided to hang onto it until after the holidays as a way to ring in the New Year here on Supernatural Thursdays. I’ve been a part of this wonderful thing we like to call the Supernatural (or SPN) Family for five years now (I found Supernatural in its second season) and the more time I spend in it, the more I’m convinced that the term isn’t used inaccurately.

This idea was really brought home to me when I posted my article about how this show has changed people’s lives. Over and over again in the comments I heard people use this term ‘SPN Family’ and it made me smile.

We may not all know each personally and some of us may be separated by thousands of miles, continents, and oceans, but we are nonetheless a family and here are just a few examples of how.

We help each other out
 

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My fantastic writing partner Kelly touched on this in her last article, but it bears repeating here as well. When people within the fandom (or those involved in the show) need a hand, the SPN Family does not hesitate to step up and help out. Donating money to charities like St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital and other charities in the name of the actors and the fandom in general, fans are always willing to help when they are needed.

In fact, I’ve seen this happen on a much more personal level. I’ve seen friends reach out in the community for assistance with things as simple as asking for a few extra prayers and positive thoughts to help someone going through a rough time, as well as even tossing a few spare bucks to support someone in need.

Some of us only get to see each other once or twice a year
 

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I don’t know about you folks, but even though I live in the same town as a few of my family members, I still only get to see them once or twice a year. People have their own individual lives and those lives don’t always crossover on a regular basis. But when we do get together, it’s like no time has gone by and we immediately go right back to where we were when we left.

I’ve noticed this phenomenon within the SPN Family, too. Every year I try to make it to at least one Supernatural convention, and other larger conventions (like Comic Con) that have Supernatural activities. One of the reasons I love doing this is that I get to meet up with people I only see at those kinds of events. Yet, just like with “real” family gatherings, the moment we meet up it’s like no time has passed and we are all instant friends again.

We all have our “favorites”
 

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Ever notice that even within families, there are still little groups that form based on age or similar interests? I always found it interesting how my family would break up into smaller groups throughout the holidays, forming and re-forming little clutches to chat, laugh, play games, etc. We all love each other but we can’t help but to have “favorites” – those people that we are instinctively drawn towards.

Within the SPN Family, I’ve seen this most often associated with the cast; specifically with the brothers, but also with Castiel too. There are Sam girls and boys, Dean girls and boys, and now there are definitely Castiel girls and boys. Personally I love everyone on the show, but that being said I can’t help but to be drawn more strongly to certain characters. Like those smaller gatherings on Thanksgiving and Christmas, I find myself more in tune with certain characters than others and I know I’m not the only one. Seems like nearly everyone who likes the show can also claim a “favorite” of their own.

We don’t always get along
 

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What family gets along 100% of the time? And if your family does get along all the time then I just have two things to say. Number one, well done! Number two, what is wrong with you??? (just kidding!). It doesn’t matter how much we love each other, there are just some times when a family doesn’t get along. There are rivalries and jealousies that go back too far, old battles that have been going on forever and occasionally they just have to come to the surface.

Here again, this is quite easily seen within the SPN Family. Any time fans get together to talk about the show, they have to talk about what they love about it…….and what they don’t. Conversations discussing our “favorites” can often lead to arguments over who is better than whom. Luckily most of the time these little tiffs end as quickly as they begin, just allowing for a little healthy sharing of opinion.

No matter what, we all love each other
 

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Even when a family has problems and argues amongst themselves, there is that underlying love that keeps everyone close together. We may have our ups and downs but through it all, we know that each of us would do anything for the other and when the chips are down, we also know that our family is the one we can count on to help us out.

In many ways, I think this point applies to the SPN Family most of all. One minute you can have a group arguing over their favorite Winchester, and the next they can be rallying together to help collect money for a charity. Even when we fight, we all know that the reason we do it is for love. We all love this amazing creation known as Supernatural and no matter what comes along to break us apart, we always come back to that.

 

So how about you folks? Have you seen any examples of how the SPN Family is like your family? Got an uncle who reminds you of Bobby? Do you and your siblings fight like Sam and Dean? Sound off in the comments and let us know what you think!

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  • http://twitter.com/lw516 Michele

    I couldn’t have said it better myself!  Loved this article.  We are a family and we connect with each other in all kinds of ways.  You and I have even traded a few tweets.

    I seem to be drawn to Sam more than any other character on the show.  I’m probably not what you would consider a normal fan.  I’m a 45 year old single mom raising a wonderful 15 year old son.  I discovered Supernatural on TNT a couple of years ago.  Hook Man was the first episode I saw.  Sam’s struggle with the events in his life and the feelings of guilt he felt connected with me instantly.  Watching his character struggle to come to terms with himself and his past, try to atone for what he has done, and, sometimes, making a much bigger disaster of things, mirrored my own life.

    My son and I have a mutual love for the show.  We watch it together and talk about the deeper meaning of the experiences of the characters.  It is a common interest that we share and brings up life experiences that we may never think to talk about otherwise.

    I love the cons.  I’ve never been to one and will probably never be able to afford to, but I always anxiously wait for the videos and recaps that the other wonderful fans post.  I also love the tweets from the cast and the way they respond to the fans.

    I heard Jared say once at a con that he wanted to be known as genuine.  I think the whole cast has proven that about themselves without a doubt.  The actors are not your normal Hollywood types.  They love their wives, children and friends and aren’t shy about letting you know that.  They are fiercely loyal.  How many of them do we see womanizing and acting like Lindsay Lohan?  And, although some of the actors may have only appeared in one episode, the fans love them and have made them a permanent part of the Supernatural family (although I would love to see the Ghostfacers and Nicki Aycox at a con.)  How many other actors could you see doing karaoke with the fans like Chad Lindberg and Dick Speight Jr.?

    I could go on forever but I’ll stop here.  I hope Supernatural goes on for more seasons and I want to thank the Supernatural cast and crew for returning the love that we have for you.  And thanks for being such great role models for my son.

    • Sabrina

      This was so well written and you took the words right out of my mouth. I also love the cons but have never been to one b/c of how expensive they are. I love that I can watch the YouTube vids and read about them, though. 

      Everything you wrote about the actors being genuine and showing their love for their wives, children and friends was so on-point. It’s another reason why I love the actors so much – their behavior is atypical to what you see of so much of today’s “stars”.

      I relate to Lisa the most, mostly because I’m so in love with Jensen Ackles and because I also tend to lean towards the bad boys in my personal life:)

  • Zuzze123

    thank you very much! this made me smile!

  • cas ryan

    me and my bro and sis fight all the time like sam and dean and im a mix between cas and dean dean for the rock music and classic cars and cas because i dont always the reference lol and my mum reminds me of ellen and my older sister is like jo so yeah there are some resemblance’s lol

  • Jessica

    I LOVE this article! it is so true. I’ve already mentioned that I didn’t discover SPN until well into the 2nd season (Folsom Prison Blues was the first episode I ever saw) but I fell in love with it immediately. I love both Winchester brothers, but I found that I connected with Dean more quickly than Sam. Perhaps it’s because I’m also the oldest in my family too, so I understand Dean’s position/burdens. I think because the underlying theme on SPN is family, it’s impossible for those of us who love this show not to become family.

    I had the fantastic opportunity to attend my first SPN Convention in LA last February, and I must say that I have never had such a wonderful experience. Everyone at the con, the actors and the fans, was amazing. There are no words for how amazing it is to be in a room with several hundred other people who love something as much as you do. I met people there that have become my close friends. We found that we had a great many other things in common besides our deep love for SPN. And we’re going to be attending several other SPN cons together this year. That is the magic of this SPN family. We are people who most likely never would have found each other if not for this wonderful show.

  • Mishka

    It’s so true! We are like a family, with all the good and bad that entails (mostly good.) We fight among ourselves but instantly unite if we need to stick up for each other or the show. Like Bobby says “Family don’t end with blood.”

  • Bunnypucker

    I enjoyed SPN alone till last year when I found out what a wonderful community–family, is out there. I myself am a Sam girl really relating to his soulfullness, his making mistakes with good intentions and his intense love of and bond with family. Most of all being a “sick kid” (so what I’m 30, I can be a kid!) I understand being different, being a freak and having family there for you through it all.
    Congrats, good read!

  • Rachael

    You summed up what I’ve been saying for a long time. :)

  • Bratlupa

    Loved the article. Everything you said was right on.

    I’ve been a Supernatural fan for a few years now, but I’ve never been big into fandom more of just watch the show and go on with life, and if I had time I might read what going on but don’t really join it, but before the year ended I started trying to get more involved and come out of my shell and I’m actually going to my first convention later on this year. I was excited to excited enough just meeting the actors, but after talking to some of the others that are going and seeing how everyone is with everyone else it is amazing, and now I’m just as excited to meeting these other congoers.

  • Bella_brooks93

     i couldn’t  say it better myseif it’s all right i love this show and i fell the same way thank you for showing me that thank you

  • Kait

    It’s a family that’s growing all the time! I find myself laughing and joking like old friends with people I have never spoken too all because of the common ground we have in SPN. I can’t imagine how i would have made it through the year without the kindness of strangers/my supernatural family. They have always been so enthusiastic about My opinions and creations and fears and it means alot to feel that sense of worth among people who I’ve never even met. It’s a comfort to know that no matter what you have a family waiting to accept you. It’s also a rare luxury that we can enjoy a show that the cast and crew enjoy working on, that they consider us their extended family as we do them.

  • http://twitter.com/Sea0231Sue Sue

    This article is so true.  I do have a favorite character (Dean)  but I do love all the characters.  Everyone in the SPN family feels just like a family. Even including the cast and crew.

  • casammy

    It is very true!!!! SPN treats dei bow relatives, of going out improve always together by that like that it is achieved to conquer everything bad that happens to us, to remain joined always by the love. All my family sees SPN since it began, my husband (53), my daughter (23), my baby brother (28), my nephews (17 and 13) and I (47) and all love the series and to dean and sam!!!

  • Rallia_dreamer

    Lovely article! And si true! As far as I’m concerned, this was the very reason I was drawn into watching supernatural a few years back, in the first place! I remember I was bored during a summer night and there was nothing on TV except for reruns of American shows I’d never even heard of. So I remember I caught a glimpse of SPN’s season1 and BOOM! That was it! I was so shocked at how much Sam and Dean reminded me of my little sister and me, not in the looks,alas, but in their way of thinking and reacting to situations and towards each other, each one’s pros and cons as well as what it is that hurts each most. The fact that Kripke managed to capture the fundamental traits upon which a relationship between two siblings is based and their different ways of thinking still astounds me! I still recall myself shouting “No, man, you don’t say that to a big brother! Damn, now he must be devastated!” when Sam dropped the “You hold me back!” line as well as my sister doing exactly the same but from Sams perspective when Dean dropped the “You let me down in so many ways that I can’t even…” one.

    And lately I’ve also discovered how damn much Bobby just reminds me of my mom, especially after watching the “Weakend at Bobby’s” episode! Haha!

    SPNFamily is real and I see it everyday with the fellow fans I’m talking to as well as with the warm way the cast and crew interacts with us. Unfortunately I’ve never been to a con, which I regret not so much because of the cast I won’t get to see, but because of this huge family gathering atmosphere I’m missing out on!

  • Tracy Horton

    I agree with a lot you have to say here, Michelle. I don’t enjoy the show anymore, haven’t since the beginning of season 5, but the friendships I made in the early seasons are mostly still intact. I even still go to an occasional convention, just for the chance to hang out with people I’m only blessed to know because of the show. It’s totally feasible. I mean, I have two sisters, and we share very few interests outside the fact that we grew up together, and I still enjoy getting together with them and spending time. One of them even likes Twilight… ‘*gasp*. It’s funny how we can disagree fundamentally on some things but still be part of a whole. I was actually in line for a photo op at the last LA Con, and this woman in front of me in the line was annoying me to no end. I didn’t know her, and she wasn’t talking to me, but it seemed like everything she did say struck a negative chord with me. I laughed when I noticed she was carrying a bag that said, “X-girl” on it, (the X being her favorite SPN character, and obviously NOT mine.) At that point, I basically just said to myself, “Well, that explains it,” and shrugged it off. To each their own, I suppose, but you know, even given that little bit of a negative encounter, I’d have been devastated for her if something had happened and she couldn’t see her favorite, might even have taken money out of my own pocket to help her out. If that doesn’t say ‘family,’ I don’t know what does.

  • http://dahne1.blogspot.com/ Dahne

    The SPN fandom is my greatest treasure and biggest annoyance – just like family.  We ride the highs and lows together and sometimes it feels like the roller coaster is about to go off the tracks.  Then something happens and we all lean the same way again righting ourselves along the rails.  For better or worse, we are a crazy, passionate family and I can’t imagine my life without it.

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