BIG LOVE “When Men and Mountains Meet” Series Finale Review

BIG LOVE "When Men and Mountains Meet"

BIG LOVE “When Men and Mountains Meet” Season 5 Episode 10 (Series Finale) – Tonight was the end of a five year run with the Henricksons, polygamy, the Grants, the Greens, and a family who touched us in ways we never would have expected. From curiosity to sympathy, empathy, love and frustration, Big Love has taken its viewers on quite a ride and tonight’s final episode was no exception. Before I watched this episode I remembered the last three series that I loved and their endings. I am not sure if there are words to express how disappointed and angry I was at the ending of The Sopranos. No, I did not accept the many theories behind the ending. I am still bitter. Also disappointing was the ending of Lost as it veered off toward a more spiritual ending than the show ever even explored. A better finale, at least for me, was that of Sex and the City. I remember smiling at the end of that episode and knowing that it ended the way that it should. I have similar feelings about tonight’s ending of Big Love. Before, I go any further, if you have not yet watched this episode, please stop reading as there are spoilers (big spoilers) in this review.

It is rather interesting to me that in a world where Bill has had endless enemies ranging from the law, to Roman Grant, to the Greens, to Alby, to the men from the Casino, as well as various other characters that have come and gone, his ultimate downfall would be at the hands of his neighbor, Carl. Let’s remember that Bill himself did nothing to Carl. Carl lost his job through no fault of the Henricksons. He was then turned away from his church, again having nothing to do with them. Finally, it was Margene that got his wife involved in Goji, getting them even further in debt, and more importantly pulling them further apart. None of that was Bill’s doing. Yet it was the act of Bill having Carl’s lawn done, based on a promise made last year, that caused Carl to snap and shoot him point blank.

We were told that Sarah would be back for the finale, but we didn’t know it would be in an after flash with Barb, as the head of the church and the priesthood holder in the house, baptizing Sarah’s son. We were told that storylines would be wrapped up and questions answered and many of them were. Let’s start there. Aside from Bill’s death, the other most moving and sad moment was the death of Lois. No one around Lois was willing to see that she was more and more foregone, but Frank. Just as he promised, and true to their love and marriage, Frank assisted Lois to her death when she could no longer remember anything except that Bill was her son. With Frank playing back memories of their life together, Lois quietly slipped off on to the next world where she would ultimately see Bill just a short time later.

Barb got what she wanted, a place in the church and in the family, but only at the expense of Bill. It was moving that his last act was to ask her for a blessing and to make her a place in his church, but sad that it had to be a life and death situation that enabled her to feel complete. Margene has moved on to fulfill her dream of service to others on a medical ship leaving every couple of months and then returning to visit. “Margene Without Borders” as Nicki called her. It was difficult to believe in this episode that Margie is only 22 years old. She has matured so much these last five years. Nicki got what she wanted as well. We did not really know what that was until this episode when she admitted to Barb that she is missing human kindness and is scared to be alone. She is not alone, but with Barb and the family continuing on. Ben and Heather were married. Sarah and her husband had the first grandchild.

It has been a difficult ride for the Henricksons. Even tonight, many times, I thought the family would implode or explode, yet they hung on, sometimes even by a thread. Just like that though, everything is okay. It seems too good to be true, yet without Bill around there is no polygamy. There are no impending prison charges. There are no fights over their places in the family or in the world as everyone is free to do what they want. We actually catch a glimpse of how it will be when the women all pile into Honeybee, Barb’s “impractical little car” and drive off on the road. Just as I thought they should drive off together and never return, Margene voices that same sentiment. In the end, that is kind of what they did, together yet apart. Bonded together through a truly big love, one that transcends the actual spouse that brought them together. I think that has always been the message behind Big Love and that is why I think the series ended perfectly.

While I could go on forever about tonight’s episode, I would like to hear what everyone else thought. Did it meet your expectations? If not, what would you have liked to see happen? Is there any storyline that you wished would have been explored? Share it with us in the comment section below.

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  • Maryoosa24

    Who was the woman who nods to Bill during his vision in this episode?

    • Krine

      Joseph Smith’s wife, Emma Smith.

    • Perla336

      Joseph Smith’s wife. She was in a dream sequence in an earlier episode this season

      • Anonymous

        Yes, as Perla and Krine said, we saw her earlier this season in a dream sequence. Since she is Joseph Smith’s wife, some might think she appeared to let Bill know he is the prophet. Or did she appear to let him know that women can be priestholders as well? Remember he was speaking about the next prophet when Barb walked in the door.

        • Jeff

          THANK YOU about the women holding priesthood. Thats exactly what I thought Emma Smith meant, but people on other sites say she was giving her approval for Bill to lead the flock of people who came out from Juniper Creek.

          • Anonymous

            Jeff – The reason I have for thinking that was the timing of it all. When Bill was speaking of a prophet, Barb walked in. Then after he was gone, Barb tells the family that Bill was the one that made it possible for her to lead the church. He had to have done that before he died. Remember when he was writing pages and pages out in the backyard? He told Ben that he and Barb would okay. I think at that point he knew that he was going to give her the priestholder position after his vision/testament. Sadly, he wasn’t there to see it actually happen.

  • Bring’em Young

    I would have liked to seen them all leave the mormon cult behind and move on with their lives.

    • Anonymous

      A part of me would have liked that as well, but since they were all deeply religious in the Mormon religion, I do not think they would have left that behind. I also think that they way the view things, with an eye toward a more modern religion, they would probably not think they were a cult such as the Grants or the Greens.

  • MTS

    I loved it. I anticipated being disappointed and it was the exact opposite!

    • Anonymous

      Me too MTS!

  • Velvia

    I hated it! I am so mad right now, I have actual tears in my eyes. This ending just shows that polygamy doesn’t work. Everyone only got what they wanted, at Bill’s expense.

    • Anonymous

      Velvia – that is an interesting point. Would Bill have allowed Barb to be a priesthood holder if he had lived? He was writing out a long letter that I believe were instructions in case he went to prison and he may have included that in there. Remember Barb said that Bill made this happen? I do not think she meant by his death. Also, he had already told Nicki to support Margene in her medical services endeavor. It is likely that had he lived those things would have happened anyway. I am not exactly sure that it happened at his expense.

  • Gee

    Stupid finale in a season of jumped sharks. But I guess the message, which makes sense, is that the women are better off without the egotistical Bill. And so is the strange little world of Utah.

    • Anonymous

      I actually liked this season more than last season. At first I felt the same way you did, that the women were better off without Bill, but upon a night’s reflection I think what I told Velvia above is true. I think Bill would have eventually made these things happen. What the death of Bill did do, however, is get rid of the spotlight and criminal issues hanging over all of their heads. I will agree that he was egotistical though. Highly.

  • Joey

    The ending was pretty disappointing. All indicated that the sister wives, especially Barb & Margene, were on separate paths, that they had outgrown the life Bill constructed based on his obstinate adherence to the principle. With all that happened, Bill just never saw it … he just never got it. I would have liked to see them all have the courage to leave — strike out the way they obviously wanted to, as seen in their lives in the aftermath of Bill’s death. I mean, Bill’s been targeted by so many … why would his guard be down that way? Seeing the instability when Carl approached him, which was extremely palpable, why stand there and get shot that way. Fairly ridiculous. We knew there had to be some sort of tragedy but Bill being the one is too predictible … of course, he has to die a martyr. I know it’s basically a soap opera but it would be a bit closer to reality if they would have learned from all that happened and found the clarity to abandon the polygymy. Bill & Barb should have ended up together — they were clearly the real couple with real love — Margene should gone off and become a missionary & Nicki confront her fear of being alone and strike out for herself & find a committed exclusive love. The ending was disappointing and uninspiring. Not to mention that Bill Paxton is way too cool to go down like that! Hopefully, he’ll kick ass in his next role!

    • Anonymous

      Joey I do agree with you even though I didnt find the finale as disappointing. Bill was completely oblivious to everyone’s needs and issues. Even with Lois, Bill refused to accept when she was out of it or could not remember things. Heck, Frank was more compassionate and understanding with her. When I saw Carl, I immediately knew something bad was going to happen. The way Bill gave him a casual “hey neighbor” made me think Bill was an idiot. He had to have known he was unstable. It seems that Bill believed he was safe because Alby was in jail? Or he expected one of his true enemies to come after him, not the neighbor over some grass (although not entirely true). Your ending would have been just as pleasing to me as this one. Bill and Barb were the only couple truly in love as evidenced by how much they continued to fall apart.

  • Tunajim70

    Maybe I was naive, but it wasn’t the ending I expected at all. The Best Part was that I though the season finale was next week, so the suddenness and sadness of the moment was real. You always knew the women would end up alone (sans Bill), but being carted off to 20 years in prison seemed the most likely scenario. You knew it wasn’t going to be good when they lost the stores, but clearly, getting shot in front of his house by his unstable and very angry neighbor was from way out in left field. Touche HBO for another great series. Big Love was not the kind of show I would normally watch but it gripped me a long time ago with it’s chaos and drama.

    • Anonymous

      Yes, Tuna. I thought he might go to prison too. However, after losing the stores, if Bill went to prison I think the women may have become destitute. This way, Bill is out of the picture, the women can move on with their lives and they undoubtedly received large life insurance sums as they were still in their houses. I also liked the surprise effect as I never expected Carl to be the one to bring Bill down. You must have been really surprised if you thought the ending was next week!

  • Anne

    You call that an ending? There was no real character development (Margene’s “journey” was a narcissistic daydream; nothing a mother of three tiny kids would even consider), no real development of any kind. In the end, nobody even had to take responsibility for just a little of the harm he or she had caused. Good intentions and Big Feelings won out…well, except for the little murder. But hey, that just gave everybody more Big Love — in heaven for Bill (and Mom) and in church for priestess Barb. Big Hooey!

    • Anonymous

      I am sorry you were disappointed, Anne. Although I think it is a bit strange that Margene would leave her kids behind, I also think she is 22 years old and has not had much of a life. Her kids are being well cared for and she considers them Barb and Nicki’s kids as well. I think she does not think she is leaving them, but becoming a better mother through her service.

  • Mouse-Mouse

    The better ending would have been if Alby shot and killed his evil sister, Nicki, last week; If Margene had run off with the man from Goji; If Bill’s father shot and killed Lois (the man despised her and she him…what were the writer’s thinking when they had that absurd little “death fest of love” in the nursing home?). Barbara and Bill should have survived as a couple with Barbara waving bye-bye to Bill as he was carted off to prison for twenty years.
    Turning this arrogant, selfish, greedy, under-handed, sex crazed Bill into a saint at the end, with his having a vision of his horrible mother looking like the blessed mother and all of the ancient polygamous women looking like they were going to the Festival of Hats, was absurd.
    And what exactly was Margene’s stupid hair cut supposed to represent?
    I say, the writer’s of this series should be forced into writing a re-do of the ending because the one they left us with was a big mistake.

    • Anonymous

      I am going to have to disagree with you a bit Mouse-Mouse. Most of the seasons we did see a hate fest between Frank and Lois, however, there were definitely moments of love. In fact I also think they loved to hate each other. They have alwasy been drawn to each other. Also, once Lois was diagnosed with dementia, Frank started to act better toward her realizing that she was leaving him. They had a long marriage, obviously not perfect and I think they loved each other. Thus, I dont think the end death scene with them were that far fetched.

      As for the vision, that was not Bill’s mother (although there was a resemblance), but Joseph Smith’s wife seen earlier in the season. I also dont think the show turned him into any kind of saint by any means, but that is just my opinion.

  • Linda

    I liked the ending.

    I think Carl killing Bill had nothing to do with the lawn. Hes blaming Bill for the lose of his family and his life. His wife lost alot of their money in Gogi and they were now separated.

    I also liked that after Bill died they still had wach other. For them widowhood wasnt the lonely isolating experience it is for most women.

    • Anonymous

      Linda – I dont think the killing was all about the lawn either. It was just the last straw, so to speak. However, Bill had no part in Margene’s selling the Goji so it is interesting that he focused on Bill. That is why I mentioned the lawn. I think it turned the focus away from Margene and on to Bill when Carl ultimately snapped.

      Bill watching over them was a nice touch!

  • Lfullam

    didnt realise it was the last episode, so was shocked . I had a few tears as frank was cuddling lois and thought it was a nice touch having bill watching over them at the end. gutted it is finished though, what are we going to watch now!!

    • Anonymous

      It would be very shocking if you didn’t know it was the end. I was also teary eyed with the Frank and Lois scene. I plan on watching True Blood when it comes back, but there will be a hole when that is over and there is no more Big Love. Hopefully HBO will come up with something great to replace it!

  • Chrissy

    I’m actually pretty shocked on all the Bill hate. I was always a huge fan of the whole family dynamic. I hate the finale soo much. I was really hoping for the Hendricksons to pull through. Where was Joey and Wanda? What’s gonna happen to Juniper Creek? Is there a new Prophet? What will become of Don without Hope Plus? Home much jail time is Alby looking at? What about Adelene! It left me wondering about so much. Hugely, hugely disappointed that this is how one of my favorite shows had to end.

    • Anonymous

      Chrissy – I was not one that ever hated Bill, however as each season went on and especially after he ran for Senate, I started liking him less and less. Never would I have wanted him dead though. The show did leave a lot of questions unanswered, as you pointed out. I think it would be impossible to wrap everything up and even more impossible to make everyone happy with the ending. That’s why I think what they did worked. I will really miss this show!

  • http://profiles.google.com/ed.essey Ed Essey

    In the beginning of the series, Bill’s character was impressive because of his amazing ability to communicate and empathize. The show drew us in because of the novelty of the dynamic between the characters and that they were clearly portrayed to have true love and to work things through. Throughout the series, the characters stayed true to themselves. Barb was always noble and fiercely convicted; Nicki was always dedicated and though selfish and provocative; Margene was always sweet though terribly naive. As the seasons went on, and the stress and drama built in the show, the scenes were relieved when the family would come together, their love for each other and humanity helping to soothe all the wounds and show that their faith, hope, and love were on the right track.

    When the stresses picked back up, they were always ratcheted up a level. Bill’s character became bossy, belligerent, and unsympathetic. He demanded thinsg for his own way and ceded no middle ground. The show expressed a lot of this by painted him backed into a corner, basing a lot of this on a surety of purpose (but with an uncertainty on how to execute on that purpose) and the feeling of a higher calling, which was never questioned amongst the Hendricksons.

    Early in the series, the members of the family were all dependent on each other, being strong as a whole, though challenged by any disagreements within the group. Throughout the show, and especially in the final season, the characters all struggled for independence in their own ways, realizing that there were a lot of complications to that, and that it was not the right ideal for them. What they finally achieved toward the end of the last show–after Bill felt the grace, Barb backed out on her baptism, Nicki reconciled with each member of the family, and Margene really sat to think of what service meant to it–was interdepedence. Their interdepedence is stronger and more mature their dependence, and more reflective of their true relationships and love than independence.

    The whole episode keeps pointing to this fact, of how important the family is. One of the most impressive things about Bill is how much integrity and proactiveness he has. Integrity is his actions aligning with his beliefs, and his proactiveness is him doing whatever it takes to enact the changes that he wants to see in the world. When he finally dropped the fears of everything, drew on the stength of his convictions and the love of his support, he was able to do something amazing.

    The Emma Smith scene acknowledged this strength, the timing of Barb walking through the door symbolized this, and the members of the compounds and the press reacting to it all showed that this was the culmination of their beliefs finally being mutually supportive with their actions.

    Dani’s review expresses so much of this perfectly, at least from my perspective, and especially the ending with Carl. What a great foil to Bill. The man who didn’t stand up for himself in any righteous way martyrizing the man who ultimately epitomized everything that he believed in and made due on all of his promises. What an impact to the show. Cheers to Bill, his integrity, and his proactiveness. Cheers to Barb’s nobleness and strength. Cheers to Nicki’s dedication and conviction. Cheers to Margene’s sweetness and maturation. Cheers to all for their elevation of values and achievement of interdepedence.

    PS – I had been getting so sick of the pettiness of the show, that I almost didn’t watch this episode. I had no idea that this was the series finale or that it would even end this season. I don’t track these things well at all. I’m so glad that I followed it through until the end.

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